This Weekend

Taking a little personal time here and letting everyone know what is going to happen this weekend, in case something happens to me or my partner, everyone will be well informed and may even be able to offer assistance if need be. And by assistance I mean the non-violent kind, I do not wish for anyone to get hurt this weekend but there is a possibility for that to happen given the unstable emotional state of the person we will be dealing with.

Tomorrow we are heading out to Hickory, NC to pay a visit to my partner's ex-wife and his son. Now for the past almost 3 weeks we have been trying to contact her by many means of communication- email, phone, Myspace, whatever we could do to get a hold of her in order to check on my partner's 4-year-old son. As of today we have not gotten a single response back from her and this has sent us into a great deal of concern for his well-being.

I took the liberty of emailing both the Sheriff's Department of Catawba County and DCS, I was told they'll look into it and get back to me, as of today they have not. So my partner and I are taking the initiative to go up there ourselves to check on him and if need be take him back with us. For those of you who don't realize it, in the state of North Carolina if there is no custody agreement between 2 parents then one parent has the right at any given time to retrieve their child without any cause or reason, as long as it is done in a safe manner.

My partner, until now, has not done this because he did not want to cause any problems between himself and his ex-wife for the safety for his son. However now his so's safety and well-being are in serious question here and he has finally decided to put his foot down and become proactive about this. Just some facts about the situation:

1. He is currently paying child support to her which is taken out of his check weekly.

2. His ex-wife has a history of self-mutilation(cutting) and an unstable family history.

3. On many occasions she has threatened to keep him from his son, without any reason as to why.

4. Given other aspects of her personal history she is emotionally not up to par on many levels. This gives us fear that when we go up there this weekend there may be a physical altercation between myself and her. And while it is most definitely not my intention to cause anyone any physical harm during this, I have made the conscious choice to not fight back if provoked in any way. The main reason, I do not believe in fighting in front of a child. If one were to happen I would remove the both of us from his presence and have my partner take him somewhere safe.

Now as some extra security, when we go up there we will contact the Sheriff's Department and local law enforcement to let them know what are intentions are, and if they decide to come and assist we would have them as a buffer to keep the peace in case anything happened. However I am keeping in mind that sometimes local law enforcement has a little issue with handling any kind of domestic dispute and may not wish any involvement. I hope this is not the case here, but I am prepared if it is.

The worst case scenario here, the one we fear the most, is that she has run-off with his son. If this becomes the case, and by all the gods I hope it is not, then we will stop at nothing to see both his son's safe return and her being punished. If this becomes the WCS I will post here and on many other sites I am affiliated with as much personal information on her as I can get my hands on and ask for everyone's assistance in finding her. I seriously hope this is not the case, but we are taking precautions in the likelihood of ANY event happening. Just like in chess, you always have to stay 3-4 steps ahead of your opponent. Our opponent here is an intimate one, one that can cause the most irreparable damage to all parties involved.

We will do our best to make this as amicable as possible, again we wish no harm on anyone involved with this situation. We are keeping in mind that this is for the sake of a very young boy who loves his father and is loved by his father very much. It saddens me things have become this way, but now it must be rectified.

So I will ask that you wish me luck, and I will do my best to keep everyone updated.